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Talk a Big Game, Why You Should

June 10, 2009

What do you want to do with your life?  Do you tell people everyday about your dreams and goals? Many don’t do this.  Many also don’t achieve their dreams and goals.  Oftentimes, these are the same people. Here’s one thing you can do tomorrow to increase the probability of achieving your dreams.

Talk a Big Game.

That’s it.  Just talk a big game, and you will have taken your first step towards taking over the world.  Talking a big game does not mean impractically pontificating and ego stroking.  But what it does mean is that even when you have a semblance of an idea, a tiny connection, you need to tell people.  Because here’s what happens:

  • You build self-esteem and positive momentum
  • You make mental connections you’d otherwise not make
  • You get a feedback loop from smart friends who want the best for you
  • Your idea will mature and evolve
  • You might accidentally fall into a series of circumstances that lead to execution

Bottom line: Talking a big game leads to planning a big game. That’s why you do it!

    Why Some People Don’t Talk a Big Game

    1. I don’t want to be “that guy.” You know the “talker.”  Nobody wants to be the talker.  You shouldn’t either.  So after you talk the big game, follow up.  Make your actions consistent with your speech. (That’s the tough part.)  If you do it right, you’ll live even bigger than you talk.
    2. I don’t want my idea stolen. Almost universally a bullshit excuse. Successful people preach the principle of telling your story to anyone willing to listen.  Most ideas are commodities.  It’s the people that make all the difference.  If you have a good idea, tell everyone.
    3. I’m afraid of failure and criticism. At least these people are honest.  This is really the only reason why people don’t talk a big game.  But when you shed your fears, you create possibility.

    Psychological Underpinnings-The Self-fulfilling Prophesy

    Talking a big game creates a self-fulfilling prophesy. Robert Merton defines self-fulfilling prophesy in Social Theory and Social Structure:

    “The self-fulfilling prophecy is, in the beginning, a false definition of the situation evoking a new behavior which makes the original false conception come ‘true’.”

    The 3  Benefits of Talking a Big Game

    1. Narrows and focuses your goals
    2. Creates social pressure to act
    3. Enables people to help you by building your capability or introducing you to relevant contacts

    My Service to You

    If you are reading this, that means I want to help you achieve your dreams.  Email, text, tweet them.  I promise to gift you a monthly “nudge.”

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